Abortion Saga: Sarkodie, Yvonne who really dissed the other in their Creative Piece?

Abortion Saga: Sarkodie, Yvonne who really dissed the other in their Creative Piece?

It seemed always hard for many of us in Africa to decipher a message when it is in written format. We have heard this popular quote: “The best way to hide something from Black people is to put it in a book.” Can our story tellers also use the same approach to express their irk, spiteful-feelings and hatred, while insulting and revenging some individuals who played key role in their lives just hiding them inside a book?

Well… It’s a week and half ago when a famous actress and movie producer launched her life story which she titled: “I am not Yvonne Nelson,” to speak about some unforgettable yet frightful experience for over thirty years of living under the sun. Many qualified the “Whim” with which she chronicled her sexcapedes as BOLD for any woman in Africa to pen down the names of men and encoded them in a book format for the world to read her story.

It’s another SMART step, as many termed, to use a well elaborated plan to sell her life TALE within a blink of an eye after its release. Various criticism arose when people began reading the story and with some well known people condemning the approach. As we all know, she had also weighed the Pros and Cons which might have been the reason she had kept some of the names under wraps in the same tale. It was earlier rumoured that it is a “TELL IT ALL STORY,” perhaps another marketing strategy for some of us to rush in our numbers against time to grab a copy before it falls short on the market.

Some had to queue at Accra mall to grab a copy to know the names of men who fortunately or unfortunately made it to the register of the book which in our ghetto, heard, it was called Memoir. A memoir is a narrative, written from the perspective of the author, about an important part of their life which is different from an autobiography. Though autobiography is written from the author’s perspective, but the narrative spans their entire life.

It seems some of us were still thinking the book was Autobiography rather than memoir so the narrative was changed again when some popular names of men who some of us might have heard allegedly dated the actress Yvonne Nelson who is currently not Yvonne Nelson.

After reading, the narrative was changed to a “SELECTIVE TELL IT ALL” but the book is a memoir so it has to be selective of events important to Yvonne. This simply means Yvonne is the sole person to determine what she had to chronicle in the book. An area of interest of the memoir had always been the affair between her and popular musician, Sarkodie who she had boldly named in the book as Michael Owusu Addo better known as Sarkodie. A man she said had impregnated and also abandoned her to her fate when he alighted her at the clinic for abortion.

Did Yvonne diss Sarkodie?

Men naturally always find it offensive when one says things that little them especially a typical African man who has ego and is willing to do anything to protect. With a cursory look at Yvonne’s book, Yvonne has claimed Sarkodie was 22 and she was 25, one can say it was with a cool tone that she made a narration. But was it a diss or means to let us know the respective ages when both became expectant parents?

She has described herself that she was independent though in her final year in school, who was a renowned actress just that she was banned for a year around the time she discovered that pregnancy in 2010. She was cruising in Toyota RAV4 car while Sarkodie was riding Toyota Matrix. If you are a person who don’t know much about vehicles like me you will ask which one is better?

I asked Google and it seemed she was in a better car than him, is it someway somehow be littling him? She once again described: “Sarkodie was a budding musician with the potential to become one of the biggest artists in Ghana and beyond. At the time, however, the future looked uncertain, and his way through the maze of life still appeared too foggy to predict. Success was not guaranteed. He was still living with his mother.”

In Ghana’s setting, it is no news for 22years boy to stay with his parents. One will ask was it necessary for her to be describing Sarkodie’s condition just to justify the reason for their abortion? Perhaps all those description were artistic words to enrich the story or to diss Sarkodie for being no body.

She explained that “He was still living with his mother and was not ready to carry a burden while he was being carried by his mother.” Men naturally get emotionally butchered when their manliness is trampled on by a woman who has had her share of life with him.

Men are truly fragile creatures. To them, self respect is everything, so much so that they can stoop to any level to be proved right. Money, Power and Fame make one egoistic especially when the man in question has massive fans who would question his act of leaving a woman impregnated at a clinic and never returned for her. She created a MOOD that would make the reader despise Sarkodie in order for the reader to sympathise with her.

As you are reading, you will put yourself in her shoes to understand her from the perspective that she was traumatised since she was banned from her source of meal, she doesn’t know her father and she always reminded by her mother of being a mistake. The man who impregnated her too is being carried by his mother (not a man enough who stands on his own), his future is uncertain, he had a serious girlfriend studying outside the country and she is left to evaluate her own option in life.

She has created a mood of hate in her reader against the man in question while she has littled the man who might grow furious while reading it. It’s noted that Sarkodie in 2010 was rising tremendously to fame when Yvonne Nelson launched her Glaucoma Foundation. Following his collaboration with Hammer, Sarkodie recorded his debut album Makye. Makye received positive reviews from critics and fans.

It was supported by a concert held at Holy City Gardens in Accra. On September 16, 2009, Sarkodie performed alongside Busta Rhymes at the Busta Rhymes Live in Ghana concert. In 2010, his “Push” and “Baby” songs were ranked ninth and thirteenth on Joy FM’s Top 50 songs of 2009, respectively. The album’s lead single “Baby” which features Mugeez of R2bees became an instant hit and gave Sarkodie exposure.

Obviously he couldn’t be described as a man with uncertain future while his music was gaining grounds. It is therefore important to understand that the language (diction) and tone in creative writing is different from music, its lyrics and tone to which a rapper would sing and rap to.

In Ghana, rap music is mostly seen as a music which should have a punchline that can break the heart or melt the mind or seek attention to draw one to listen attentively to the lyrics. It’s also interlaced with rhyme, symbolism, narrative and tone of aggression to express one’s displeasure, likeness and fondness.

This might be the case of Sarkodie who had expressed himself aggressively with massive punchlines in his response to Yvonne’s portion that unapologetically described him as unmanly.

Sarkodie in his lyrics has described Yvonne as a cheat who was playing him with another man (Kwame as the symbolism) to restore the “respect” which he deemed he might have lost through the book which he could not erase the narrative and would serve as history and reference point for many authors, readers, researchers who might some day be researching for Ghana musicians who did not own up to a pregnancy.

Sarkodie in his rap attack explained that once Yvonne informed him about the pregnancy due to her cunning and disloyalty nature, he wanted her to see his very own doctor who he qualified as Doctor UN. He also warned Yvonne not to claim herself as a victim because she was a woman for the street. This undoubtedly was slut-shaming her.

Could this be another approach a man is taking to coil any woman who might have learnt from Yvonne to talk negatively about others brands in a coded book? or that is how Yvonne is in real life? Has Sarkodie said something contrary to how public projected, applauded and termed Yvonne as BOLD for naming and shaming men who one way or the other had offended her through her tales and she found it as praise?

In Ghana, Shaming has been a popular parenting method to punish bad behaviour. This could be severe, in the form of spanking a child, it creates embarrassment which leads to shame for them to desist from such a act.

There were some sympathisers, who were appealing for Sarkodie to be stripped off from his awards after Yvonne boldly mentioned his name for making her abort a child which he was not ready for it. Sarkodie on his side said he wanted Yvonne to keep the pregnancy since he did not believe in the first place that she was pregnant so he himself wanted to verify through his very own doctor.

Sarkodie’s narration also proved that he was not that little boy that Yvonne was claiming and was being “carried by his mother.” Sarkodie even said since he got to know the real Yvonne, he was scared and did not give in to her cunning tactics for him to go into her room to avoid any harassment which might lead into an intercourse so he suggested a place, sky bar for them to meet but she said the place was overcrowded.

Sarkodie had asserted that Yvonne was the one who was harassing him not him. With typical Ghana settings, a man is the one who pleads with a woman to be in his room not the other way round. This strongly shames Yvonne as a lady who is not courteous and he even goes further to thwart Yvonne’s emotional appealing story in her book that she did not find a love from the men she dated due to their disloyal nature with his punchline that she should not act like she was looking for love among the d!çks that she sucked.

We may have wanted Sarkodie to be polite with his words which were geared toward slut-shaming a woman who he has admitted to have taken a bite of her cake. It had never been appealing for any woman in Africa to be described as slut.

But did his punchline described his emotions and how disgusted he felt? All women obviously would have wanted a man to be conventional and respectful to a woman to install the feminine pride of womanhood.

Meanwhile, “I am not Yvonne Nelson” to some critics should have been a book to project a feminine pride but the book one way or the other crushed down the pride of a woman who struggled against all odds to singlehandedly cater and supporting a child. As the title suggested as identity crisis, the actress doesn’t know her father and over the years had been deceived by her mother to see a father through Mr Nelson who was not her biological father.

She claimed another DNA test of a different man had also proven futile. In ending a long story, Yvonne wanted any man who has had something to do with her mother to show up and wrote a letter to her dad and even would grant anonymity if he was a high profile person. She wrote the book just to find her father because her mother who was still alive did not show her father to her.

In Ghana, they say a woman is the one who knows the father of her child so if Yvonne has been trained and raised by a single mother who might equally has a personal reason for not showing her a father and has written a book to search for her father after the two men her mother claimed were her father did not turn positive then it meant her mother has strings of men.

This is a disrespect to a woman who had given you the desire, care and support and never made you lack anything in life. The book is a clear opportunity for Yvonne to have projected her mother in a good light but she slut-shamed her mother and sold her mother out publicly as a liar and a confused woman who doesn’t know the $perm which has formed her.

One may ask is her act a conventional way especially in Ghana settings to search for her father? One may ask again, do we search for a father in means of making money in the search?

Source: www.spotonnews.net